Dear Matzav Inbox, 

As a mother whose child is currently enrolled in day camp, I was deeply disappointed to hear from my son about his day-to-day experience and to observe firsthand how a counselor failed to uphold the expected standards and conduct of a ben Torah, including the use of inappropriate language directly in front of the campers. Equally troubling is how common it has become to see multiple counselors absorbed in their smartphones instead of engaging with the children, often standing around scrolling while the kids are left unsupervised or ignored. After speaking with several other mothers whose children also attend the camp, I found that they share the very same concerns and sense of disappointment—to the point that one parent has already chosen to pull her child out of the camp entirely because of these issues.

It leaves many of us wondering: Why are parents who cannot afford sleepaway camp forced to expose their children to this kind of environment? Day camp is the reality of summer for so many families in our community, and those children deserve the same protected, refined atmosphere that is expected throughout the rest of the year.

While discussing this troubling situation with fellow parents, one important systemic point was raised. Because many fine bnei Torah are immersed in their yeshivos or away in camps during July, the pool of local candidates for day camp counselors can sometimes be critically shallow. However, local Roshei Yeshivah could play a transformative role by encouraging bochurim who remain in the city to step up for the sake of the community, rotating to take responsibility for a bunk or supervise activities a few times each week.

Additionally, many bungalow colony day camps successfully utilize a model in which rebbeim rotate supervising afternoon activities or serve directly alongside the staff. While we certainly respect that rebbeim deserve time with their own families during the summer, we must ask: If it were their own children sitting in these bunks, exposed to inappropriate language and constant smartphone distraction, wouldn’t they step in and make personal sacrifices to protect them? Adopting these community-based approaches—bringing in committed bochurim and having experienced leadership rotate through these roles rather than relying solely on younger, distracted staff—would provide a consistent presence of positive mentorship, proper standards, and meaningful supervision.

Camp is not merely a place for recreation; it is an extension of our children’s chinuch and character development during the summer months. Counselors serve as frontline role models, and our community relies on them to model integrity, patience, and middos tovos. When those entrusted with our children’s care fall short of these foundational values—whether through unbecoming speech or constant distraction by their phones—it sends a discouraging message to the young minds who look up to them.

I hope this serves as a wake-up call to camp administrations about the profound responsibility they bear in shaping our youth and the need to strengthen both their hiring standards and their staffing model before more families feel compelled to walk away.

Sincerely,

A Frustrated Mother

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