By Rabbi Eli Mansour

The Gemara (Yoma 87a) tells that the great sage Rav was once insulted by the local butcher. Over the next several months, Rav waited for the butcher to apologize, but he never did.

Finally, on Erev Yom Kippur, Rav decided to go and stand right outside the butcher shop so the butcher would see him. He hoped that if he would stand there and make it very easy and convenient for the butcher to request forgiveness, he would.

The butcher saw Rav standing outside his shop, and he shouted angrily, “I have nothing to say to you!” Not only did he refuse to ask forgiveness, he doubled down, insisting that he had nothing to apologize for.

At that moment, a bone from the animal the butcher was carving darted from the counter into his neck, killing him.

The Rabbis of Mussar explain that although the butcher had offended Rav many months earlier, he was punished only now because he squandered the opportunity to apologize and make amends. All people make mistakes, and it is not easy to admit we were wrong and initiate a process of reconciliation. But what’s inexcusable is avoiding reconciliation when the opportunity comes right to our doorstep. The butcher was wrong to offend Rav, and he was wrong for not going to request forgiveness – but what sealed his fate was failing to approach Rav when Rav made himself available.

This story sheds light on a pronouncement by the prophet Yeshayahu about the Aseret Yemeh Teshuba – the ten-day period from Rosh Hashanah through Yom Kippur.

Yeshayahu (55:6) turns to the people and exclaims, “Dirshu Hashem Be’himase’o, Kera’uhu Bi’hyoto Karob” – “Seek out G-d when He is accessible, call upon Him when He is near.” Of course, G-d is always “accessible,” and He is always “near.” In all seasons, at all times of year, and at any time of day, in any circumstance, we can turn to Hashem for help, we can ask Him for forgiveness, and we can ask for whatever it is we need. However, the Gemara (Rosh Hashanah 18a) explains, during the Aseret Yemeh Teshuba, Hashem is especially close and is especially receptive to our sincere prayers. During this period, the prayers recited by an individual have the same power as prayers recited together with a Minyan during the rest of the year.We can only imagine how powerful congregational prayer is during the Aseret Yemeh Teshuba! Indeed, Rav Chaim Brim of Jerusalem (1922-2002) would say that spiritual achievements which normally take weeks to attain can be reached in just a few moments during the Aseret Yemeh Teshuba. This is a special time, when our prayers and our efforts to repent and improve are particularly effective, many times more than at other times of the year. At first glance, it seems that Yeshayahu is encouraging us and advising us by calling upon us to turn to Hashem during this period of Aseret Yemeh Teshuba. As Hashem is close, it is recommended that we seize this opportunity for prayer and repentance. But in light of the Gemara’s story about Rav and the butcher, we might conclude that Yeshayahu isn’t just giving advice – he’s issuing a stern warning. If Hashem is close, then we must initiate a process of “reconciliation,” a process of Teshuba. It’s not just a good idea – it’s an obligation.

We are flawed human beings, and so it is understandable that we will make mistakes.We are not expected to be perfect. And it is understandable that we will find it difficult to acknowledge our mistakes, to admit wrongdoing, to confess that we’ve acted improperly and have made bad choices. This is embarrassing and uncomfortable. And change is always challenging. But even if we could be excused the rest of the year for not making an effort to improve and ask Hashem for forgiveness, we have no excuse during this week, when Hashem specifically comes to us and invites us back. During the Aseret Yemeh Teshuba, Hashem is right here next to us with His arms open. He is ready to forgive us as long as we take the first step by admitting we were wrong and committing to try harder. If we don’t seize this opportunity, this period when Teshuba is especially accessible, then we have no more excuses.

Let’s ensure not to make the butcher’s mistake. Let’s take full advantage of this special opportunity and sincerely turn to Hashem in heartfelt prayer and with a firm resolve to improve, to correct our mistakes, and to enhance our relationship with our Father in heaven.