By COLlive reporter
Is my spouse really my bashert, or is that something people say to keep marriages together? Why does our relationship seem so different from the exhilaration we felt when we first met? Why does my spouse push me to talk? Why does my spouse retreat and not talk to me? Why do our arguments feel so familiar? What is the secret to avoiding conflict? Are there practical ways to enhance our relationship dynamic?
Rabbi Pinney and Helana Herman discussed these and other marriage challenges on Tu B’Av at Chabad of Aventura South in Florida.
The Hermans served as shluchim in Raleigh, North Carolina, for over 30 years. They are trained in Imago Marriage Therapy and SRT somatic training. They lead Jewish marriage workshops and have spoken nationally and internationally on topics of sholom bayis, mikvah, and other Jewish themes. They currently live in South Florida, where they see clients both individually and together, in person and over Zoom.
Following a delicious buffet dinner, over 70 people of all ages and relationship stages gathered for a very enlightening and informative evening.
“We are always looking to promote Sholom Bayis (marital harmony) for our community in any way we can. Rabbi Pinney and Helana were so relatable and entertaining,” said Mrs. Raizel Rosenfeld, Shlucha of Chabad of Aventura South. “They gave very practical tools and included real Jewish and Chassidic concepts in their presentation.”
One of the participants echoed similar thoughts. “The Hermans never met me, yet it felt like they knew exactly what was going on in my marriage. My husband and I were able to relate to the issues they raised, and we are really excited to try the solutions they taught. It was also very refreshing to hear a couple share some of their own relationship experiences and not just listen to someone tell us what to do.”
A special thank you to Rabbi Mendy Boas, part of the Chabad of Aventura South team, for coordinating the entire event.
