
This video features Rav Asher Weiss addressing a group of podcasters on how to balance being a Ben Torah with the demands of a professional career and family life. The discussion centers on the idea that there is no singular “magic formula” for this balance, but rather it relies on individual attitude, priorities, and personal integrity.
Rav Weiss emphasizes that working for a living is not bedieved; it has been the standard for the vast majority of Jewish history. He highlights that one should not feel inferior for working to provide for a family, as that is a significant mitzvah.
He suggests that work can be elevated to avodas Hashem if a person maintains the intention that they are working to provide for their family, community, and to enable a life of Torah.
While professional life is important, he advises that learning must remain a priority. He discourages married, working individuals from focusing solely on iyun , suggesting instead a focus on Gemara as a foundation, paired with Mussar to foster personal spiritual growth.
When navigating the professional world, he stresses the importance of being polite, kind, and professional. He notes that working in secular environments provides unique opportunities for Kiddush Hashem through integrity and positive conduct.
He emphasizes that while having a Rebbi is important for spiritual and halachic guidance, it does not mean they should make every personal or professional decision for the individual. A Ben Torah must still use their own intelligence and common sense when making life choices.
Video Source: “Shtark Tank”